Sunday, March 29, 2015

Does Your Husband Annoy You? & MYHSM Linky Party


Making your home sing Mondays


Welcome to the Making Your Home Sing Monday linky party!  Every day you are doing something to make your house into a home for yourself and your family (if you have one). 

My point with each Monday post is, what are YOU doing or going to do today to make your home sing?  It can be an attitude or an action. So have fun, do some blog hopping, and link up!  Thanks!


Topics can include marriage, parenting, encouraging women, organization, cleaning, saving money, our behavior and attitudes, homemaking, homeschooling, recipes.....the opportunities are endless.


Note: We had 105 linkups last week!  You guys are awesomely amazing and amazingly awesome!  Don't forget to visit one another and try to leave a comment on at least one blog to encourage someone today!  :)  

On the left sidebar (down towards the bottom) is the "Making Your Home Sing! Monday" button which I'd love for you to grab and paste into your post!  It is a "no-follow" button.


Sometimes the thing that attracted you the most about your husband when you were dating can be the thing that annoys you the most now that you're married.

Isn't that strange?

His sweet thoughtfulness that so attracted you then can now be annoying when you are tired and waiting in line with a cart full of groceries and your husband lets someone else go ahead of you.

That humor that you loved so much can now make you mad when you are upset about something that your husband finds funny.

The patience and understanding that you once envied so much can now make you want to rip his head off when you are angry with someone about something and your husband encourages you to think about their side and give them grace.

How is it possible that he could change so much?

Wait.  Did he?  Did you?

I married a kind, patient, humble man who is a peacemaker.  He is also an encourager and easily puts others ahead of himself.  I'm not kidding.  He really is that way.  I loved and admired all those qualities in him.  I still do.

Yet sometimes I get frustrated when I want him to be mad with me about something.  It's not that he won't "take my side" in a situation, it's just that it is in his nature to fairly look at ALL sides. Also, some things just don't bother him like they do me.  The words "Let it go" come to mind!

I get annoyed when I want to be selfish and he encourages me to think about the other person.  Um, excuse me!  I want to enjoy being selfish here!!!!

I have learned so much from my husband, and one of the things I have learned is that I can't understand how he can so easily put others ahead of himself.  I just don't get it.

That does not come naturally to me. I have to work at something that he does so easily.  I have to PRAY to be unselfish when he just seems to do it without thinking.

Hardly seems fair, does it?

The things you loved about your husband then but annoy you now?  The qualities and characteristics that you admired so long ago but now frustrate you?

We can't have it both ways.  We can't have a man who is kind and patient and generous only when WE want him to be, and only when it is convenient for us.

But what if the qualities you admired are now causing marital strife?

What if the man who was so easy-going then is driving you crazy now because company is coming over and you're stressing out because dinner is going to be late and the house is a mess and he's saying "Who cares?"

What if the man who could never make up his mind about which restaurant to eat at when you were dating STILL doesn't have an opinion and you just wish for ONCE that he would make a decision instead of making you do it all the time?

What if the man who would let you have your way in anything is STILL letting you have your way in everything and now you feel like you are having trouble respecting him because you feel like you could "walk all over him" anytime you wanted?

What do you do if you got what you wanted but now you're not sure if you WANT it anymore?

We have to remember God's design for marriage.  It is a picture of our relationship with Him.  In it we are to COMPLETE one another, not compete with one another, and as we grow in our relationship with HIM we grow in our relationship with one another.

We have to remember the qualities and things that we loved about our spouse then, and try and be thankful for them now.

We have to remember to focus on the GOOD things that they are doing.



We have to remember that we didn't marry ourselves.  So why should we expect our husbands to act exactly the way that WE would act in any given situation?  

You married someone who has qualities and characteristics that are part of the person that God has designed him to be.

What if your husband can be used by God to help shape you and mold you into the woman that God has designed YOU to be?  Can you trust Him (God) for that?  Can you be thankful for it?

What are you doing or going to do today to make your home sing? Please go here for instructions and/or ideas and come back here to link up to join us today!



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Friday, March 27, 2015

Make Those Heirlooms Live Again!





I like this little corner in my kitchen.  True, the wallpaper border is incredibly old and dated.  But the IKEA fake plant is new!

Sometimes it's all about fooling the eye.  If there's something you don't like, pair it with something that you DO like.

Your eye will be drawn to what you do like and then, hopefully, what you don't like will fade into the background.

I have mentioned in the past my love/hate relationship with antiques.  We have a lot of antiques that probably aren't worth much monetarily but that mean a lot to my husband and children because, to them, it's about FAMILY.

To me, it's about someone else choosing furniture that they liked, that happened to match their taste and/or pocketbook....and then I have to learn to love it and live with it.

But over the years some of our antiques have grown on me and I've made them my own by making them fit the personality of OUR home, and I feel blessed to have them.  They really do cause me to think about the real people behind the piece, and I guess that's why my family loves them so much. I'm working on it.  ;)

The two words "paint" and "antique" make my husband hyperventilate.  So no paintbrushes get near our antique furniture.....YET anyway......

But I like to have a little fun using some items as accessories.  I've heard something has to be at least 100 years old before it can be considered an antique, so maybe we should call them heirlooms instead, right?  Make those heirlooms live again!


This sled was my husband's brother's sled.  He died of cancer when he was young and so I never met him, but I loved using his sled in my Christmas decor.  I just bought a floral spray and a big ribbon and tied them on with string.  The picture to the left of the sled is him posing with it (although you can't see it very well here)!



This typewriter is at least 50-60 years old.  It belonged to my husband's dad and it had languished in our garage for years until I remembered it was out there and brought it in to make itself at home.  I just added a family picture taken at my son and daughter-in-law's wedding.



These are the crib springs from the bed that my babies slept in.  So you can imagine how much joy it brings me to put it to good use again!  This was when it was decorated in fall decor.  The crib springs and table top have gone through several seasonal changes already and are currently sporting spring-themed accessories.

I am certainly not a decorator and my home reflects that, but I do know that I am happy in my home, and my home reflects that too.

What does your home reflect?

Make sure that YOUR home reflects the love, laughter, happiness and personality of the precious family that lives there!


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The Life Of Faith

Living Proverbs 31

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Sunday, March 22, 2015

Are There Thorns In Your Marriage? & MYHSM Linky Party


Making your home sing Mondays


Welcome to the Making Your Home Sing Monday linky party!  Every day you are doing something to make your house into a home for yourself and your family (if you have one). 

My point with each Monday post is, what are YOU doing or going to do today to make your home sing?  It can be an attitude or an action. So have fun, do some blog hopping, and link up!  Thanks!


Topics can include marriage, parenting, encouraging women, organization, cleaning, saving money, our behavior and attitudes, homemaking, homeschooling, recipes.....the opportunities are endless.


Note: We had 113 linkups last week!  You guys are awesomely amazing and amazingly awesome!  Don't forget to visit one another and try to leave a comment on at least one blog to encourage someone today!  :)  

On the left sidebar (down towards the bottom) is the "Making Your Home Sing! Monday" button which I'd love for you to grab and paste into your post!  It is a "no-follow" button.


I have been blessed with the opportunity to be one of many bloggers contributing to "31 Days To A Better Marriage" series on Managing Your Blessings.   This is a wonderful series with 31 different bloggers sharing their hearts, wisdom, joy, and sometimes their pain with you, in order to encourage you in your own marriage today!


 Well, today is my day to guest post!

So if you're popping over from the 31 Days series, welcome!

I'm Nan.  I am a pastor's wife who is blessed to be married to my best friend, and the mother of two wonderful sons and mother-in-law to a beautiful daughter.  I have a love for Jesus, a heart for women, and a craving for chocolate.  I blog about lots of things:



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Such as "Ten Ways To Fall In Love With Your Husband All Over Again,"


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and wondering  "Does Your Husband Look Forward To Coming Home At Night?"   Fighting For Your Marriage,   10 Ways To Sabotage Your Man As A Husband And Father,    making room in your heart for your husband,  asking if you're Breaking Or Repairing Your Marriage and other marriage thoughts.

I also blog about the fact that

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I Am A "Mean" Mom,   Sibling Rivalry,   Correcting our children,   Raising respectful kids and other thoughts on raising children,   Ten Things To Try Before You Lose Your Temper With Your Child, and teenagers.



"10 Ways To Keep HouseWork From Taking All Day," Conquering The Messies,  10 Ways To Avoid Getting Sidetracked When You're Cleaning, and other posts on clutter, cleaning and organization




Putting on Jesus,  Changing From The Inside Outother thoughts on walking with the Lord  and lots of other things as well.


So feel free to poke around but meanwhile, let's talk about the dangers of ignoring the thorns in your marriage.




When I was a little girl I got a thorn in my ankle.  It hurt so bad but I was even more afraid of having it removed, so I ignored it and didn't tell anybody.  You can imagine what happened after that.

Yup.  It got infected.  Removing it was even MORE painful because of the infection.


Sometimes we are tempted to ignore the thorns in our marriage, but that is a mistake.


There are some minor things that we ignore in order to have a smoother marriage.  We do so in love and let grace cover it as we choose to move forward.

But sometimes we don't move forward.  


Sometimes we don't let go but we don't deal with the issue either.  So we try and bury it.  But the problem is that it won't be buried.  It won't be ignored.




So the thorn keeps digging deeper and deeper into our heart flesh, causing bruising and bleeding and inflammation in our marriage.  Still we try and ignore it, but soon it starts building up to a raging infection........




Do you have thorns in YOUR marriage???  What are a few things you should do before you remove the thorn?

Please click here to read the rest of this post, but before you do, don't forget to link up your posts on marriage, parenting, homemaking, saving money, etc. for the "Making Your Home Sing Monday" linky party below!

What are you doing or going to do today to make your home sing? Please go here for instructions and/or ideas and come back here to link up to join us today!



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I am linking up to these linky parties:

 PhotobucketStrangers and Pilgrims on Earth 
The Life Of Faith

Living Proverbs 31

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