Sunday, September 29, 2013

Making Your Home Sing Monday Linky Party



Making your home sing Mondays


Welcome to the Making Your Home Sing Monday linky party! Every day you are doing something to make your house into a home for yourself and your family (if you have one). 

My point with each Monday post is, what are YOU doing or going to do today to make your home sing?  It can be an attitude or an action. So have fun, do some blog hopping, and link up!  Thanks!


Topics can include marriage, parenting, encouraging women, organization, cleaning, saving money, our behavior and attitudes, homemaking, homeschooling, recipes....the opportunities are endless.


Note:  We had 78 linkups last week!  You guys are awesome!  Don't forget to visit one another and try to leave a comment on at least one blog to encourage someone today!  :)

This last week has been our wedding week as our oldest son is getting married this weekend to his lovely fiance.  It's been a busy week with a couple of unexpected health bumps along the way, with some of us getting sick and one of us needing an emergency 7 a.m. visit to the dentist (go ME!).  Ain't nobody got time for that.

Our son's last night in our family home (as a single man) we went into his room, gathered in a circle and we all prayed for him.  As we gathered, it reminded me of all the years we would gather together at bedtime to have story time and pray for one another.

This changed as the children grew older and began jobs or had events that would take them away from home in the evenings.  We never stopped praying for one another, we just weren't able to gather together as a family to pray at bedtime anymore.

Life changes as your children grow, it gets harder and harder to find family time together.  Having meals together can be difficult too.  Our kids were usually attending college during the day and working in the evenings.  In fact, many is the time that we have gone to bed before our kids!

But the one thing that never changes is the love you have for one another, and the fact that you are a family.  Time and distance doesn't change that.  Even death doesn't change that.  For example, my dad is still my dad, he is just living in a heavenly zip code now!

As my son goes out to make his way into the world and start his own family and traditions, I am confident that he will be happy and successful because I have entrusted him into God's care since he was born, and I trust him into God's care even now!

I have faithfully been praying for my children's future spouses ever since my children were born.  Over the years I prayed for their wives in their girlhood and young adulthood.  As I prayed certain prayers for my children, I would pray those prayers for their future spouse as well.  For safety and protection, wisdom to make right choices and choose the right kind of friends, strength to say no to temptation, for their spiritual growth, for their health,etc.  And I prayed for their families as well.

And now I have a face to put the prayers to for one of my son's wife.  I am still praying for the other son's future wife, he hasn't met her yet.  Or if he has, he doesn't know it yet, lol!  Have a lovely weekend, my friends!


What are you doing or going to do today to make your home sing? Please go here for instructions and/or ideas and come back here to link up to join us today! Please do not put your own "Making Your Home Sing Monday" Linky on your blog.


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Sunday, September 22, 2013

When You Feel Like You're Failing At This Parenting Thing



Making your home sing Mondays


Welcome to the Making Your Home Sing Monday linky party! Every day you are doing something to make your house into a home for yourself and your family (if you have one). 

My point with each Monday post is, what are YOU doing or going to do today to make your home sing?  It can be an attitude or an action. So have fun, do some blog hopping, and link up!  Thanks!


Topics can include marriage, parenting, encouraging women, organization, cleaning, saving money, our behavior and attitudes, homemaking, homeschooling, recipes....the opportunities are endless.


Note:  We had 92 linkups last week!  You guys are awesome!  Don't forget to visit one another and try to leave a comment on at least one blog to encourage someone today!  :)

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Sometimes it feels like motherhood is a lonely, solitary job.  Seems like there's no one around to notice or tell you when you're doing something right, and everyone's around to notice when you do something "wrong." 

At least that's how it feels sometimes.

Your baby fusses and you can't quiet her.  It's your fault, right?

Your toddler throws a temper tantrum in the grocery store.  It's your fault, right?

Your preschooler doesn't know all her letters of the alphabet and everyone else's preschooler does.  It's your fault, right?

Your teenager got into trouble at school.  It's your fault, right?

Why are we so ready and willing to blame ourselves for everything?  Why do we hold such impossibly high standards for ourselves?

Why does it seem like motherhood and guilt go hand in hand?

From the day that baby is born, your heart begins to knit with theirs.  The minute the nurse places that tiny baby in your arms you feel the weight of that responsibility for that tiny little life.

I remember my first night home with our oldest son.  I sat on the bed and stared at his precious, tiny little face.  In a moment of panic I looked at my mom and my sister-in-law and I said "What do I DO with it?" Then I began to cry.  (Yes, I said "it," lol!)

I was already afraid that I would "mess it up."  I was afraid that I would not develop that momtuition that moms seemed to have.  I was afraid that I wouldn't know how to parent.  I was afraid that I would fail at this parenting thing.

I DID fail at this parenting thing.  But I also succeeded.  There were moments where I felt discouraged and where I lost my temper or had a less than stellar day.  There were moments when I was afraid that my children would remember my ugly "mean mom" face or less than loving words for the rest of their lives.

But there were moments when I made the "owie" all better, when I had patience in abundance, when I turned a frown into a smile, and turned tears into laughter.  There were many precious moments of joy and laughter and love.


When we accept that we're going to fail at this parenting thing, we succeed at this parenting thing.

When we accept that we're going to make mistakes, when we accept that we are not going to be perfect, when we forgive ourselves for the times we feel like we've failed, we free ourselves from the fear and guilt that paralyzes us and we move forward.

We are free to believe that with God's help, we will learn and change and grow as a parent, and we have hope that with God's grace, we will get better at it and become the mom we truly desire to be.  Not the perfect mom, but the grace-led mom.  Not the faultless mom, but the forgiven mom.

When we accept that we're not perfect, we can accept that we can't do this on our own.  We need one another to get through this.  We need community.  And we need God to get us through this.


We succeed at parenting when we realize that parenting is NOT simply what we do, it's who we ARE.  


And who we are is a parent who is not perfect, makes mistakes, but picks themselves up again and continues to seek to do their best and loves their child with a passion and fierceness that makes us weep sometimes.

We're wiping noses, helping with homework, driving carloads of kids around, and occasionally staring blankly at our children when they ask "What's for dinner?"  We're getting up in the middle of the night to change a wet diaper, comfort a scared toddler or pacing the floor for a teenager who is fifteen minutes past curfew.

We are loving and living and learning and sometimes feel like we're sort of making it up as we go along. And that's o.k.  Because everyone knows that these kids did NOT come with a rule book.......

What are you doing or going to do today to make your home sing? Please go here for instructions and/or ideas and come back here to link up to join us today! Please do not put your own "Making Your Home Sing Monday" Linky on your blog.


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Friday, September 20, 2013

"5 Things To Do When Struggling With Discontent In A Marriage" (My Guest Post)


I am blessed to be able to do a guest post today over at Sarah's blog, Hope In Every Season, while she is having a wonderful time in England!  Here's a small excerpt of my post today:


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Sometimes we can be annoyed or angry with our husbands over something that they CAN or CANNOT help.  In our annoyance, we may say things that belittle our husbands or make them look bad in our children's eyes, in the eyes of others, as well as in our own eyes.

Said to our child: "Sorry, sweetie, we can't go to the zoo today because daddy doesn't want us to have any fun."
Said to our friend: "No, I can't go to the movie with you because my husband is mean and stingy and has a rotten job that no one in their right mind would want."

Said to our family: "So what if he works hard?  So do I!  But you don't see ME sleeping in on Saturday morning.  I have to get up with the kids.   I wish I could relax over the weekend!  He's just a big wimp."

Said to our husband: "I don't understand why I can't buy that new dress.  What kind of a husband and provider are you????"

When we are struggling with discontentment with what our husband has provided for us or where God has placed us, when we are struggling with anger against our husband and wanting our friends or family to validate that WE were "right," and not our spouse; when we are struggling with the little annoyances that living with one another can bring, we need to take a closer look at ourselves.

What are we filling ourselves up with?............


.........................To read the REST of this post and find out "5 Things To Do When Struggling With Discontent In A Marriage," please click HERE.......    



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I am linking to these linky parties:

Missional Womenhttp://christianmommyblogger.comHappyandBlessedHome.com Please save image and put it in your post or on your sidebar.Faithful Friday Blog Hop Share The LoveTheBetterMom.comWhat Joy Is MinePhotobucketHappy Wives ClubLiving Proverbs 31i should be mopping the floor
The Alabaster Jar 125 Titus 2 Tuesday ButtonCourtship Connection Teaching What Is Good Messy MarriageDucks 'n a RowFamily Home and LifeWise-Woman-Builds  All Things with Purposekatherines corner Photobucket