Sunday, March 31, 2013

When I Am Rude To My Family & MYHSM Linky Party


Welcome to the Making Your Home Sing Monday linky party! Every day you are doing something to make your house into a home for yourself and your family (if you have one). 

My point with each Monday post is, what are YOU doing or going to do today to make your home sing? It can be an attitude or an action. So have fun, do some blog hopping and if you want, link up!

Topics can include marriage, parenting, encouraging women, organization, cleaning, saving money, our behavior and attitudes, homemaking, homeschooling, recipes....the opportunities are endless.


Happy Resurrection Sunday, everyone!!!  Ever caught yourself outside someone's house or outside the church, saying to your tired, fighting, grumpy children "Stop it, we're about to go inside.  Smile and act like we're a happy family and like we actually all LOVE each other!!!!!!"

Ever had a fight with your husband on the way to church?  Ever been annoyed by your children on the way to church?

Ever said some harsh last words in the parking lot with a huge frown on your face, slammed the car door and then walked into the church or into your friend's house with a big happy forced grin as if you hadn't just yelled at your husband or children?

Ever been angry or grumpy and then the minute the phone rings you answer with a sweet, syrupy voice?

Yeah, me neither.

Isn't it amazing how quickly and easily we can throw on a grin and muster up a patient attitude and a sweet voice when we have to?

Isn't it equally amazing how quickly and easily we can shed that sweet attitude and pleasant smile for a negative attitude and an unhappy frown?

Generally we might never be purposely rude to our friends.  But we might be rude to our family.

We would never hang up on someone if we were annoyed with them.  But we might hang up on our family.

We would never raise our voice and yell at someone.  But we might yell at our family.

We would never slam the door because we were mad at our friend.  But we might do that to our family.

We would never ignore our friend and refuse to talk to her.  But we might ignore our family.

If I am being nicer to you than I am to my own family, it's not because I love you so much.

It's because I love ME so much.


It's because I am being selfish and thinking about myself, not about you.  But you are benefiting from my selfishness.  It's because I don't want you to think negatively of me.  It's because I really care what you think and I don't want to lose your friendship.  It's because I love my family to pieces but figure they are stuck with me so unfortunately, I am not always as gracious with them as I'd like to be.

It's also because I know that my family really loves me.  And because of that, I don't pretend around them.  I don't do "fake" around them.  They see the real me whether that me is happy and thrilled and in a good mood, or angry and grumpy and in a bad mood.

But then it hits me.  Since when is showing love and kindness "fake?"  Since when is being patient and kind and loving to someone not real just because you're tired or grumpy or really not feeling it?

I am confusing an action with an emotionI am confusing showing the actions of kindness and  love with feeling the emotions of kindness and love.

We don't have to feel the emotion to commit to the action.  We are called to love one another, it is love in action.  Jesus never said "I want you to feel like you love each other."  No, we are just called to do it.


When you do the action, you will find that the emotions will come.You don't have to sit around and wait until you feel like being kind or loving or forgiving.  You don't have to wait until you feel like being patient to exercise your patience muscles.  You don't have to wait until you feel love for someone before you respond in love.

That is why I can have control over my emotions.  That is why I can choose to respond in a loving manner when all I really want to do is rip your head off.  This is why I can show grace.

Because none of it depends on my feelings.


You can act in love because we have a God who has unlimited love.   You can extend grace because we have a God who has unlimited grace.  You can forgive because we have a God who has unlimited forgiveness.

Show love in action today.  Don't wait around for your feelings to catch up.  Just show love in action whether you feel it or not and make your home sing!

What are you doing or going to do today to make your home sing? Please go here for instructions and/or ideas and come back here to link up to join us today! Please do not put your own "Making Your Home Sing Monday" Linky on your blog. As always, please don't forget to link to this post so that others can join the fun!

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The Life Of FaithTheBetterMom.comWhat Joy Is MineCourtship ConnectionWise-Woman-Builds Missional WomenPhotobucketHappy Wives ClubPhotobucketExceptionalisticCovered in Grace
All Things with Purposekatherines corner


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Friday, March 29, 2013

Are You In The Waiting Room With God?


I was in the doctor's office, trying to be patient while waiting for my name to be called.

I brought a book to read and tried to read it, but there were lots of people there and I was distracted by their talking, by children running around, by people coming and going.  Finally I gave up and just sat there.

Every time a door opened I looked up.  Was it my turn?  Was it the nurse coming to call my name?  Was there finally going to be an end to this interminable waiting? Was I finally going to get the chance to put this behind me and get ON with my life?

If I had read my book I would have been able to distract myself with something pleasant, and time would have passed much more quickly.

If I had allowed myself to get interested in what was going on around me, I might have had a pleasant talk with the friendly looking gal next to me, or played peekaboo with that sweet little baby, or asked the little boy how old he was.   

I might have been able to forget how I was feeling for awhile and get my mind on something else instead of dwelling on the pain.

Instead, my focus was on the door.

Sometimes during difficult times it can feel like you are in the waiting room with God.  Waiting and waiting for Him to call your name.

Waiting for it to be your turn.  Waiting for Him to deliver you out of the waiting room into the room where the Doctor is IN.  Waiting for it to be over!

It's hard to be in that waiting room.  Waiting can seem like forever.  Waiting can seem pointless.  Waiting can seem painful.  Waiting can seem unfair, after all, weren't you here first?

But you have to remember that, just as that nurse eventually called my name, God is going to call YOUR name.  He is not going to forget about you.  He loves you!

A lot can happen in that waiting room with God.  We can grow in patience, and trust, and faith.  We can reach out to others who are hurting.

We can get involved in what is going on around us and take joy in Him, even when the circumstances seem difficult.  Because we know God's GOT this and He is going to call our name.


We can trust in His timing, we can trust in His plan, and we can trust in His purpose.

Or we can sit there and stare at the door.  Oblivious to everyone and everything.

Are YOU in the waiting room with God?  What are you going to focus on today?  Are you going to try and enjoy those around you and keep moving forward and wait patiently for God to deliver you?  Or are you going to just sit and stare at the door?


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Thursday, March 28, 2013

Life With Gangsta Nana, #3



Gangsta Nana: (hollering our son's name up the stairs)  ____? _____?

Me:   "____ is not here."

Gangsta Nana:  "Oh, I was hoping he'd go (out to the freezer) and get me some ice cream."

My hubby:  (coming up from behind her) "Why didn't you ask ME to go get it?  I can get it!"

Gangsta Nana:  "Oh, well you're much older than _____  is."

Hubby:  (jokingly) "I think I'll go take a nap now......."

Click here  for more of Gangsta Nana.


(Note: My kid's friends call my mom "Gangsta Nana." She is 89 years old and a bit hard of hearing. For those of you who think I am making fun of my mom or her age or abilities, just know that she has an awesome sense of humor and loves to laugh, especially if it's at herself. We all howled at this, especially her.)
 

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Wednesday, March 27, 2013

When Good Blog Pictures Go Bad


I took this picture several weeks ago.  Apparently I thought you'd be interested in seeing a picture of our garbage and recycling maybe?  I don't know.  Somehow I doubt it.

Sometimes I come across a picture I took for the blog awhile ago and then no longer remember why I took the picture.

I could take notes, of course, but that would just be too organized, and far be it from me to be overly organized.

And so now I have a picture, have no idea why, and have to make up a blog post to go with it.

So......................here we go............

I don't know about you people but I just toss my recycling on the floor and step on it before I put it in the recycling.  I suppose most people do.  But most people would probably take theirs outside first before they do it.

Not me.  I just toss it on my kitchen floor.  Then I take pictures of it.  Then my husband walks by and sees me take a picture of it and quietly says "Okaaaaaaaaaaaaayyyyyyyyyyy.  I don't even want to know......" and keeps walking.

He really doesn't want to know.  Trust me.

Sometimes I think that HE thinks that all we bloggers do is take pictures of garbage.  And messy sinks.

Because it seems like all he ever sees me do is take pictures of pancakes that I fished out of the garbage, and popcorn and broken dishes all over the floor, and a sink full of dishes. 

Once I was taking a picture of my messy kitchen counter and he said "Is that all you guys do?  Take pictures of your messes and put them on your blogs?"

I said, "Yup.  Pretty much."

He never walks by when I'm taking pictures of what's inside my purse.

The sad thing is, I just did a blog post about my garbage and recycling.  Pretty sure that's a new low in the blogging world.  What's even more sad is the fact that you're actually reading this right now.

I humbly apologize and will be happy to come to your place and take pictures of YOUR garbage.  O.k?


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Sunday, March 24, 2013

Making Your Home Sing Monday Linky Party


Welcome to the Making Your Home Sing Monday linky party! Every day you are doing something to make your house into a home for yourself and your family (if you have one). 

My point with each Monday post is, what are YOU doing or going to do today to make your home sing? It can be an attitude or an action. So have fun, do some blog hopping and if you want, link up!

Topics can include marriage, parenting, encouraging women, organization, cleaning, saving money, our behavior and attitudes, homemaking, homeschooling, recipes....the opportunities are endless.


Well I don't know about you but WE sure had an eventful weekend.  Our oldest son is engaged. Yesterday he asked his girlfriend of two years to marry him, and she said yes!

We already knew that he was proposing so it was just a matter of keeping our mouths shut and keeping it a secret until he popped the question.

Those were the feelings behind this post that I wrote last week about my children growing up.

They met their third year of college and developed a friendship that turned into love.  We love her and we love her family too!

She's a beautiful girl, inside and out and they really complement each other.  I'm just going to have to get used to that whole "mother-in-law" thing, lol!  I just can't imagine myself as a mother-in-law as I can't believe that my son is "old enough" to be married, even though he's 24!

Anyway, I don't have a post today.  My laptop is having trouble and so I am using our old computer and am having issues with that as well.  So I gave up on a post and am fighting to post this.  I plan on posting as usual this week but if I don't, it will be due to computer problems.

Note: Just wanted to add how excited I was to see 51 of you link up last week!  Thank you for participating.  I loved reading every one of your posts.  I hope that you will take a moment to visit one or two links yourself this week, and let them know that you dropped by so they can hop back and read your link! Also, it looks like hubby has fixed my laptop so blog business as usual this week!

What are you doing or going to do today to make your home sing? Please go here for instructions and/or ideas and come back here to link up to join us today! Please do not put your own "Making Your Home Sing Monday" Linky on your blog. As always, please don't forget to link to this post so that others can join the fun!

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Friday, March 22, 2013

It's Just The Facebook Version Of A Chain Letter



Be afraid.   Be very afraid.

You've all seen it on facebook.   The originator desperately wants their post to go viral or something so they insist that only their FRIENDS will repost it, and they KNOW who you are!!!!!

Yup, it's the facebook version of a chain letter.  Do you know what that is?  I practically grew up with them running around rampant.

Basically, you have to resend a copy of the letter to everyone you know and maybe even Brad Pitt.  If you don't, bad things will happen to you because bad things happened to the sender's mother's sister's son's girlfriend's uncle's daughter's dog because the dog didn't pass on the chain letter.

So now you have the facebook version that uses guilt, sympathy, compassion and a bit of terror to make you repost.

Because if you DON'T repost then you're not really their friend, you don't care about cancer, you hate babies and puppies and you don't care that all your hair and teeth are going to fall out by 8:00 a.m. tomorrow morning.

Well, I DO care about cancer (my own brother has fought cancer three times), I AM your friend, I do love babies and puppies, and so far I have all my teeth and hair, thank you very much.

Well, except for the baby teeth that fell out when I was little but I'm still not bald yet.

So I want every single one of you that's reading this to pin it on pinterest or share it on facebook, or both.

Only the 3% of you who are my REAL friends will do it, and I know who you are.  If you don't do it than that means that you hate chocolate and you hate puppies and kittens and you hope it rains on my birthday.


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Thursday, March 21, 2013

Don't Lose The Now. Fight For It.


So I was going to post something brilliant.  Something amazing. Something that was surely going to make you cry and touch your heart and make you beg me to let you pin it, tweet it or facebook it to everyone you know.

O.k., not really, so don't get excited.

But I WAS going to post something.  I had no idea what as I hadn't written it yet.  Then my son came home, and then my hubby and my other son came home and suddenly we found ourselves watching t.v. together and there went my post.

And talking.  Talking enough that we had to stop the t.v. on occasion so that we could converse.


When did this happen?  When did my boys get big enough to have an opinion?  When did they develop a sense of humor?  When did they get old enough to stay up past their bedtime?  When did they get old enough to drive?

Where did the time go?  Wasn't I just changing diapers yesterday?  Wasn't I just struggling earlier to get clothes on a wiggly little body, or trying to help because I was in a hurry only to hear "Mommy, ME do it. Me do it!"

When did "please don't pick your nose" change to "please drive safely?"

I know you're sick of hearing "Enjoy it.  They grow up so fast."  I know it because I was sick of hearing it.  I was also not enjoying a screaming toddler tantrum,  putting a wayward preschooler back in bed for the 15th time, or repeating myself for the 2,500 time that day. It seems like it's going to go on forever.

But when you are on the other side of forever, it seems like such a short span of time.  The long sleepless nights become a memory.  Toddler temper tantrums become a great story that you can tell around the dinner table at holidays and get a laugh.

Some of the things you remember are the things that might have seemed hard or tiring then.  Rocking a baby to sleep when you can barely stay awake yourself.  Changing the sheets in the middle of the night after someone got sick or wet the bed.

Taking care of a sick child when YOU are sick yourself.  Endless drinks of water.  Endless questions.  Repetitious answers.  Interruptions in the middle of the night, seemingly every night.  Putting your child back in bed and saying "And this time, STAY there!"

I won't say that I wish that I could do it all over again and that I would give anything to be back in those days because I refuse to live my life like that.  I refuse to live in the past.

I refuse to waste the precious moments we are living now by wishing for then.  If I sit here and wish that my boys were little again and mourn and grieve every day that they've grown up I will miss the time with them that I have now.


If I allow my heart to live in the past there won't be room in my heart for the future. 

Would I love to live some of those moments over again?  Sure I would. But my boys are so precious to me now that I would have to give up who they are NOW in order to enjoy who they were then.  And I'm not willing to do that.

So I will indulge my nostalgia with dvds and pictures and papers from their childhood from time to time.  I will enjoy it without letting it become a regret that that time is lost to me forever.  Because it's not REALLY lost to me, because I have my memories.  I can't live it over again, but I can remember it again.

And I won't lose the NOW.  I will hold on to it, I will enjoy it, and I will fight for it.
 

I will continue to build my marriage with my husband so that it doesn't get lost in memories of their childhood.  I will continue to love him, laugh with him, serve the Lord with him, enjoy our children with him and be his best friend.  I won't forget that I am a wife as well as a mother.  I won't forget him.


I will continue to enjoy the men that my sweet boys have grown into now.  I will keep praying for my boys, and thank the Lord for guiding us though all those years, and giving us wisdom and direction and calling my boy's hearts to Himself.  And I will continue to pray for Him to guide them throughout their lives.

And I will STILL try to enjoy the now, because this time too will be but a memory some day.


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Be sure and come back Monday and link up to the Making Your Home Sing Monday linky party!
 

I am linking up to these linky parties:

All Things with PurposeImparting Gracekatherines cornerMissional Womenhttp://christianmommyblogger.com Happy Wives ClubTheBetterMom.com
The Life Of Faith Courtship ConnectionWise-Woman-Builds What Joy Is Mine

PhotobucketPhotobucketCovered in Grace

also Marriage Monday with "The Joyful Family"